Most of my clients have never talked with their partner(s) about what they like in bed, and many have never even asked themselves. A sexual menu is a simple, judgment-free tool that can change that. In this post, I explain what a sexual menu is and why it’s useful (hint: less shame, more pleasure). Then grab my free Yes, No, Maybe: Your Sexual Menu Workbook, which includes a full menu and walks you through filling it out, sharing it with your partner(s), and creating a shared

Does sex feel like a routine, or worse, a pass/fail test? You might be stuck in a goal-oriented approach that prioritizes orgasm over connection and leaves a lot of folks unsatisfied. In this guide, I introduce an alternative: the Pleasure Wheel, a flexible, non-hierarchical approach that puts fun and pleasure first. Learn why goal-oriented sex doesn't serve anyone, how the Pleasure Wheel can transform your sex life, and how to build your own.

There are a few things that make sex great—communication, playfulness, and most of all, consent. In this guide, I learn what real consent looks like (enthusiastic, specific, ongoing), how to overcome the fear of asking, how to use safewords and safe signals, and why consent isn't just necessary—it can be genuinely sexy. Whether you’re new to these conversations or want to deepen your practice, this blog offers scripts and tools for you and your partner(s) to feel safe, curiou

Stuck in circular arguments? A couples therapist shares how reflective listening can transform the way you and your partner communicate and connect.

Trust is the foundation of any meaningful relationship. But what does trust really mean? How do we define it—and how do we measure it?